Hi, it’s Jennifer Alexander and I saw Lady Gaga on The View the other day.
She was talking about the passing of her friend Amy Whinehouse. Lady Gaga said the most unfortunate thing about it all is the way the media spins things with them saying that we can all learn things from Amy’s death. Lady Gaga went on to say that she feels the lesson we should all learn is to be kinder so superstars.
What really needs to happen is we all need to learn to be kinder to one another, whether they are a superstar or not. When we see others who have more than we do we can become jealous and mean to them. And on the flip side of that some people treat homeless people like dirt and look down upon them. We need to remember people are fragile human beings with feelings and that if we want this world to be a better place we need to be kinder to everyone.
But the problem with this concept is that being kinder is just not that simple. It’s not that simple because our brain is like a super highway of neuropathways. Most of our neuropathways are formed by the time we are just 14 years old. So think back when you were a young person. Did you always treat others kindly or were you constantly in competition with your peers? Most kids are in competition mode both in the classroom and on the playground. And as we get older we keep for entry into post secondary schools and then as adults we compete for jobs. What this means is that as adults our brains have formed deep neuropathways in connection with our interactions with others. So ultimately we can consciously say we want to be kinder to others but given our world is so full of constant stressors we most often revert to using our conditioned mind otherwise known as our unconscious mind which then follows the same neuropathway it always has and we then become mean to others. Another reason humans aren’t kinder to others is fear. Many people have a fear of shortage and the mentality amongst most people is, “I want the best for you as long as I’m always better.”
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